As we continue to grow numbers for our Parent March on Washington set for May 3rd (now a three day event), we are woefully short of the numbers needed to get the attention our cause deserves, that of obtaining a federal investigation into the billions of dollars in aid being abused in our nation’s divorce and family courts.
While a fine group of dedicated Americans has been joining our weekly conference calls, vast numbers of victims everywhere are not answering our call for solidarity and action. Countless complainers continue to keyboard from the comfort of their homes to the choir, to no one who cares about their war stories, or to no one who can do anything about it anyway.
As both an attorney for 23 years and victimized parent for another ten, I have documented the corruption in these courts, concluding overwhelmingly that we have an epidemic on our hands. The reason it is not being publicized is because parents and children have become a trillion dollar industry. There is no parent protection league, watch dog or union looking out for us unlike the powerful bar associations and special interests protecting their gold mine.
Think of it as the tobacco or chemical industries which lied to the public for decades before much belated accountability was finally wrestled from Congress. Suicides are among the most horrific consequence of this antiquated and highly lucrative custody system. It must be reformed into a progressive shared parenting model of child rearing.
When the suicide note below was sent to me by one of our March organizers, I could not bear to read all of it, so so sad! There are countless like them, i.e. 22 veterans committing suicide every day, visit Purple Heart’s Final Beat, Second Class Citizen .org. (short professional video of a veteran who takes his life in an empty home, felony child support summons on his front door, after returning from duty in Iraq).
Such suicides are a common final solution to parental alienation which mindless lawyers (and lawyers on the bench) cause every day without compassion or concern. They must finally be investigated on grounds of human rights violations alone! One father, Thomas Ball, burned himself alive in front of a family court in Keene, New Hampshire to protest corruption and alienation. Can you even imagine what it took for this Vietnam veteran to do this, how much pain he had to endure?
Thomas Ball also left a suicide note, but it was more of a manifesto detailing how to make Molotov cocktails for use against family court buildings. That was eight years ago when they simply washed his ashes into a sewer. Maybe I’ve lost everything trying to bring reform and attention to this epidemic, but I know I have personally saves many lives and prevented such horrific outcomes.
My upcoming report to Congress does not begin to match the cost and publicity of the Mueller Report, but it has far greater relevance to every-day society, where government attention must be shifted after all the political hoopla subsides. It has been updated and will be made available soon for those serious about joining us in Washington. Victims generating their own summaries will be included with it in a lobby packet hand-delivered to every member of Congress.
This is an unfunded, grass-roots initiative. For that reason and the sake of parents, grandparents, children and families everywhere, make your donation today, get on the phones, spread the word and make plans to join us on May 3, 2019.
A Father’s Suicide Note
by the family court system,
Christopher Mackney, 45,
Dec 29, 2013 in Washington DC.
The love that my daughter and I shared was truly special. She is a such a sweet, kind and gentle spirit. I am so sorry that I will not be there to see her grow into a beautiful woman. It absolutely crushed me to not be in her life over the last three years. I worked very hard as a father to build her confidence and self-esteem. She is smart, funny and considerate, but she didn’t know it yet. I pray that she realizes her strengths and her confidence in herself will continue to grow. I love you dearly, Lily.
My son Jack was just entering Kindergarten, when I lost access to him. He is gregarious, outgoing and a great athlete. He is smart and fearless. He could have just as much fun by himself as he could with other kids. Even the older boys in our neighbourhood wanted to play with Jack. It absolutely breaks my heart that I will not be able to help him grow into a man. I love you to, Jack. I miss you both so much.
My identity was taken from me, as result of this process. When it began, I was a commercial real estate broker with CB Richard Ellis. I lived by the Golden rule and made a living by bringing parties together and finding the common ground. My reputation as a broker was built on my honesty and integrity. When it ended, I was broke, homeless, unemployed and had no visitation with my own children.
I had no confidence and was paralyzed with fear that I would be going to jail whenever my ex-wife wanted. Nothing I could say or do would stop it. This is what being to death or ‘targeted’ by a psychopath looks like. This is the outcome. I didn’t somehow change into a ‘high-conflict’ person or lose my ability to steer clear of the law. I’ve had never been arrested, depressed, homeless or suicidal before this process. The stress and pressure applied to me was deliberate and nothing I could do or say would get me any relief. Nothing I or my attorneys said to my ex-wife’s attorney or to the Court made any difference. Truth, facts, evidence or even the best interest of my children had no affect on the outcome.
The family court system is broken, but from my experience, it is not the laws, its the lawyers. They feed off of the conflict. They are not hired to reduce conflict or protect the best interest of children, which is why third parties need to be involved. It should be mandatory for children to have a guardian ad litem, with extensive training in abuse and aggression.
It is absolutely shameful that the Fairfax County Court did nothing to intervene or understand the ongoing conflict. Judge Randy Bellows also used the Children as punishment, by withholding access for failing to fax a receipt. The entire conflict centered around the denial of access to the children, it was inconceivable to me that he would use children like this. This is exactly what my ex-wife was doing and now Judge Bellows was doing it for her.
To all my family, friends and the people that supported me through this process, I am so sorry. I know my reactions and behavior throughout this process did not always make sense. None of this made sense to me either. I had no help and the only suggestion I got from my attorneys was to remain silent.
At first, I did what I was told, remained silent and listened to my attorneys. Then after I had given my ex-wife full custody to try and appease her, I learned about Psychopathy and emailed Dr. Samenow about my concerns and asked him for help. Of course, I was ignored. As the conflict continued, I was forced to defend myself. When that didn’t work, I thought I could get the help I needed by speaking out. There is no right or wrong way to defend yourself from abuse. Naively, I thought that abuse was abuse and it would be recognized and something would be done. I thought speaking out would end the abuse or at least get them to back off. It didn’t. When no one did anything they were emboldened.
I took my own life because I had come to the conclusion that there was nothing I could do or say to end the abuse. Every time I got up off my knees, I would get knocked back down. They were not going to let me be the father I wanted to be to my children. People may think I am a coward for giving up on my children, but I didn’t see how I was going to heal from this. I have no money for an attorney, therapy or medication. I have lost four jobs because of this process. I was going to be at their mercy for the rest of my life and they had shown me none.
Being alienated, legally abused, emotionally abused, isolated and financially ruined are all a recipe for suicide. I wish I were stronger to keep going, but the emotional pain and fear of going to court and jail [because of exorbitant child support] became overwhelming. I became paralyzed with fear. I couldn’t flee and I could not fight. I was never going to be allowed to heal or recover. I wish I were better at articulating the psychological and emotional trauma I experienced.
I could fill a book with all the lies and mysterious rulings of the Court. Never have I experienced this kind of pain. I asked for help, but good men did nothing and evil prevailed. All I wanted was a Guardian Ad Litem for my children. Any third party would have been easily been able to confirm or refute all of my allegations, which is why none was ever appointed to protect the children or reduce the conflict.
Abuse is about power and control. Stand up for the abused and speak out. If someone speaks out about abuse, believe them.
Please teach my children empathy and about emotional invalidation and ‘gas-lighting’ or they may end up like me.