Dr. Leon Koziol, Director
Parenting Rights Institute
Yes it did happen, an alienating parent, Kelly Hawse, was so evil in her quest to replace a father for money and status that she was recommended for an exorcism in New York Family Court. It happened in my own divorce case in 2011, the same year that my custody judge was accused and later banned from the same family court after admitting to sexual abuse of his handicapped five-year old niece, Bryan Hedges, 20 NY3d 677 (2013).
Although it may have appeared extreme at the time, this recommendation, made in a third-party affidavit, has been justified repeatedly ever since. I have spent more than 30 years in these courts, 23 as an accomplished trial attorney, 15 as an alienated “non-custodial parent,” and I have yet to see anything like the evil which has matured here. How could a biological mother work so ferociously and so long to destroy exemplary father-daughter relationships?
Syndrome, Symptom or Satanism: How Can Parent-Child Alienation Be Rationally Explained?
This exorcism event may not stand for any legal precedent, but its evolution could help victims better understand parental alienation. A growing outcome of an antiquated child custody system, it has proven to have no remedy or loss compensation in either federal or state court. Many observers, qualified or not, have focused on a complex analysis, but as you should discover here, parent alienation is really quite simple and begging for overdue reforms.
Parent Alienation Syndrome
The needless destruction of parent-child relationships in divorce and family courts was recognized early on by a psychiatrist, Dr. Richard Gardner, during the 1980s. He gave it the name Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS), and despite its popular recognition, this syndrome was never accepted by Gardner’s profession. Meanwhile, hundreds of conditions in its DSM manuals continue to be employed in custody evaluations for insurance purposes.
Parent Alienation Symptom
Similarly, the same courts have refused to give this horrific condition any meaningful acceptance. To answer this abdication of duty, I have asserted in my reports and legal briefs that parental alienation is neither a psychological condition nor a syndrome of any kind but a symptom of a dysfunctional process focused more on lawyer profits and court revenues than the so-called “best interests” of our children.
Parental alienation is, very simply, the by-product of a toxic and adversarial court system. Our federal government rewards it by the number and size of support orders it issues. Parents are therefore required to name a “custodial parent” as a condition for a lawful separation or divorce not because it advances any child interests but because it yields untold profits and billions of dollars in performance grants under Title IV-D of the Social Security Act.
This yield sabotages overdue reforms while creating an inherent or systemic bias among jurists who are given the financial incentive to manufacture as many “custodial parents” as possible while ruling against their “noncustodial” counterparts. This, in turn, incites emotional outrage among the inferior parents who rightfully feel discriminated and abused by a decisional process that they are not properly acclimated to by their legal representatives.
Such grants are not justified when this two-caste framework is replaced by a co-parenting one where parents are treated equally under our Constitution. This would produce vast harm to to a giant bureaucracy built on support collections and court battles. It also explains why shared parenting legislation is opposed by special interests and bar associations across the country. Such opposition is mindless given the collateral damage which the outdated system produces.
The arbitrary custody mandate can transform a cooperative child rearing environment into a barbaric contest reminiscent of the Roman Coliseum. Over time, it can create monsters among parents and children alike. In my newly published book, Whistleblower in Paris, I document the carnage with numerous examples of child homicide (i.e. Gabriella Boyd), suicide attempts (Alec Baldwin), murder-suicides (Investigator Joe Longo) and even a self-immolation (Thomas Ball). You can obtain a free insight on the book’s website at http://www.whistleblowerinparis.com.
Parent Alienation Cult
Parental alienation has elevated over the years in the custody playbook to take on the character of a cult in extreme cases. That cult is bent on exploiting custodial authority for ulterior purposes such as child support increases, punishment of an adversary, or replacement of a targeted parent with a preferred substitute. My case had all three but was also laced with an agenda for suppressing my public criticisms of an increasingly corrupt court system.
This agenda empowered my ex-wife, Kelly Hawse, to abuse her custodial authority to levels that exceeded rational and moral bounds. She nurtured an evil to such a degree as to permanently alienate me from my daughters. Once benefited by the standard 85% of time spent with my children under the antiquated system, she was able to orchestrate a false narrative that had me wrongfully defined as an uncaring weekend warrior and “deadbeat” dad.
The two weekends a month typically assigned to noncustodial parents are woefully inadequate to maintain meaningful parent-child relationships. Such arrangements can easily isolate that parent, reduce him or her to an inferior role model, frustrate involvement in school events and create a disconnect even among cooperating parents. But when a scheming alienator is involved, the harm could be much more severe and life impacting.
You would think that lawyers in robes would have the requisite sophistication to detect parental alienation especially when it is occurring before their very eyes. But in my case, the overseers were looking the other way as a means for punishing my public exposures of corruption and efforts to reform this lucrative custody system. Here is an excerpt from my book which exemplifies how brazen the alienation was against me:
To illustrate this aspect of a growing epidemic, on one occasion I was returning from a weekend with my girls at an indoor water park. As a weekend warrior, a noncustodial parent has to maximize enjoyment to offset the alienation process, and my daughters loved these excursions because we lived in snow country. The ex was busy with her anal routine of texting me whenever I was running late. It did not matter that her girls had enjoyed such a wonderful time with their dad. To the contrary, this custodial parent was likely incensed by it.
It got so anal that I texted back that I was in Rio to make up for all my deprived parenting time, my way of saying enough is enough. It was pathetically obvious that this was a facetious text as it was sent from her driveway, and she could verify the girls’ exiting my vehicle from her picture window. Nevertheless, to my utter shock, I was hauled into family court days later to defend against a show cause order limiting my geographic activity to two local counties.
Incredibly, a hearing was actually held on the Rio caper in May, 2011 with my children’s assigned lawyer (William Koslosky) questioning, quite astoundingly, whether I was truly in Rio while dropping off his “clients.” I refused to answer on “stupidity” grounds despite the judge’s directive to respond. My refusal was then used against me with our first forensic evaluations ordered of mom and dad. Supervision was later imposed. More on that under the subject ‘forensic funny farm.’
Other playbook antics included the scheduling of discretionary activities on weekends. The rationale used here was that these were extensions of school-related events that truncated my parenting time. Sometimes my entire period would be preempted by events in other states where I was remanded to observer status. Ever the schemer, this abuser would then convey privately, and contrary to court order, that I was not interested in the girls or their activities. A secret bond was established which lasted to the time when all contact had ended. Even a senile judge could discern the alienation agenda, but each one I petitioned would find a way of excusing it.
Coming Tomorrow: History Repeats Itself with a Relocation Concealment to Keep the Alienation Forever in Play
This author will be making a formal presentation before a Blue Ribbon Panel of New York’s newly installed governor, Kathy Hochul, on the subject of forensic evaluation abuses in family court. We will keep you posted.