Kelly (Hawse) Usherwood: The Ultimate Energizer Bunny of Parental Alienation

Dr. Leon Koziol, Director

Parenting Rights Institute

Administrator’s Note:

Dr. Leon Koziol will be making a presentation before a Blue Ribbon Panel of New York’s newly installed governor, Kathy Hochul, on the subject of abusive forensic evaluation orders used in family court to cause severe parental alienation. The post below, the last of a four part series beginning with the Brad Pitt-Angelina Jolie divorce, will be a part of that presentation. You can also get a free insight on Leon’s new book from its website at http://www.whistleblowerinparis.com. We will keep you updated on all of our reform efforts.

With all the crises facing society today, you would think that a custodial parent, Kelly (Hawse) Usherwood might finally relent with her parent alienation tactics carried out against a dedicated dad now for a period of more than 15 years. There are others like her abusing our courts to achieve illicit objectives having nothing to do with any child’s best interests. But this one remains off the charts and an ideal poster villain for family law reform.

As the unfortunate victim of this spiteful energizer bunny, never reported for child abuse or neglect, never been found to be an unfit parent, and the victim of numerous family offense petitions thrown out for lack of evidence, I have been forced into the undeserved role of crusader behind such reform. This role was made more pressing when I was targeted for my exposure of corruption within this lucrative system of child control.

You would think that lawyers in robes would have the requisite sophistication to detect parent alienation, a custody tactic often used to increase child support, punish an adversary or replace a targeted parent with a preferred substitute. My case had all these combined, but it was also laced with an agenda for suppressing my public criticisms. More than 40 trial level jurists were disqualified from my originally uncontested divorce, a national record by most accounts.

This makes it an ideal case for a federal investigation because it has elements common to most others and features a support agency’s scheme to conceal $45,500 in support payments during a 2018 violation hearing. That resulted in a secret bulletin and a near death outcome. Because these agencies and family courts in general derive billions of dollars in federal incentive grants based on the number and size of support orders they satisfy, this concealment constituted a clear abuse of federal funds in addition to a violation of human rights.

A maliciously protracted ordeal notwithstanding warnings which the mother of my children ignored, it was originally benefitted by several years of uneventful co-parenting. That benefit was gradually transformed into a destructive process. In 2016, despite having all her prior offense petitions dismissed, this custodial parent and ex-wife, now Kelly Usherwood, filed yet another petition to preserve a substitute father relationship in favor of a childless lover. I never yielded to her evil agenda and was therefore compelled to defend.

I was fortunate to get a state supreme court judge (trial judge in New York) to sign an order against family judge, Daniel King, who was presiding over this petition. He had previously suspended my parenting time without legitimate grounds after I brought testimony against him at the state’s Moreland Commission on Public Corruption. He then imposed a gag order, disguised as a protection order on my website, http://www.leonkoziol.com, thereby triggering First Amendment issues.

Within weeks of serving that order upon him, Judge King cancelled his hearing on this petition, dismissed it without any appearances, removed his own gag order, and then disqualified himself altogether from ongoing proceedings. Even a biased observer could conclude that this was all orchestrated behind closed doors, further supported by dismissal of my own challenge to the gag order based on those sudden events. It had the effect of avoiding public clamor with a protest set to occur one week later at the state supreme court building.

My defense to the family court petition was not only based on First Amendment but also a fraudulent notice of my daughters’ relocation to the substitute father’s residence (her purported g-mail notice which lacked the required “l” character). The location of one’s children is central to any parent-child relationship, but Kelly Hawse-Koziol had become possessed by an evil that even I could not detect or comprehend. Indeed, even convicts are granted the rights of knowing the locations of their offspring.

This relocation fraud was one of many tactics employed without accountability to erase me from my daughters’ lives. And it occurred without any remedy or compensation in my precedent-seeking actions dismissed in federal and state courts. The painful loss of father-daughter experiences is too extensive to relate here. You would think that the alienator might have learned a vital lesson, but she is at it again with the concealment of a new residence believed to be that of her latest substitute, Lou Usherwood, her spouse since May, 2021.

What possible gain could this obsessed alienator have today for concealing my daughters’ residence given the fact that my youngest turned 18 years of age only days ago? Even the new spouse, a father too, should have sufficient logic to conclude that this residence is easily discoverable and that the ex-mother-in-law was employed for a substitute address simply to enrage the targeted parent. After all, there has never been an incident at the alienator’s home, as he can personally verify, to support the false narrative that dad is somehow dangerous.

This will only renew conflict that has long subsided, conflict that seems to excite the alienator no matter how demented or satanic it may be. It calls for precedent to include those who assist alienators as co-conspirators of civil rights violations. As a victim on many fronts, one would think that all this has to stop at some point especially after the hospitalization which the combined impacts caused me in December, 2020. But this alienator is utterly obsessed with her agenda, one that caused an unprecedented request for an exorcism by a third party in 2011.

My ordeal is likely familiar to countless victims of contrived parent-child alienations. The current, antiquated custody system pits moms against dads and parents against the state to such an extreme that it can make monsters of otherwise normal parents. In my recently published book, Whistleblower in Paris, at pg. 189, I cite only a few examples of the carnage:

It is a (custody) regime that can turn a parent into a brutal killer overnight. Recent examples include a mother who was convicted of murdering her two-year old daughter rather than comply with a custody change order that was not timely enforced. She was also convicted of attacking police with two knives when they arrived. [1] Another featured an NYPD officer charged with murdering his autistic eight-year old son in January, 2020 by leaving him overnight in a freezing garage. [2] In 2019, a mother purchased a gun overnight and killed her estranged husband and two children. [3] According to an investigative report, 725 such deaths were suppressed by a state agency. [4]


[1]   ‘You Are In A Special Category Of Evil’: Mamaroneck Mom Who Killed 2-Year-Old Daughter Sentenced to 25

      Years To Life, newyork.cbslocal.com, October 31, 2019

[2]   Mongelli & Musumeci, Michael Valva, NYPD cop charged in son’s murder, tears up in court as 911 call played,

     New York Post, May 11, 2021

[3]   Mother Charged with murders of husband, 2 children in Tacony, ABC 7 (Philadelphia), October 18, 2019

[4]   Chris Bragg, State agency suppressed 725 child death reports over decade, Times Union, October 13, 2020

In Chapter 2 of my book, I elaborate a bit more on this carnage:

I thought about the dead and walking dead, victims of murder, suicide, premature death and those awaiting justice that would never come. I thought about Investigator Joe Longo, a father of four so traumatized after support court that he used a common kitchen knife to leave them with no parents for life.[1] The predators just kept pounding him with confiscated weapons, protection orders, support intercepts and career damage without considering any breaking points.

I thought about Thomas Ball, product of an overzealous child protection agency who sat down one day on the steps of a New Hampshire courthouse to protest family court abuse. [2] But this was no sit-in, no occupy court mission. He poured gas over his head and burned himself alive. I cringed at the extreme pain he must have suffered before and during this holocaust. In the end, there was no national coverage, no court reforms, they merely washed his ashes into the sewer.

I thought about Alec Baldwin, one of the few victims who did attract national coverage. During his high profile divorce with Kim Bassinger, he dutifully complied with forensic evaluation orders, hoping to quickly exit this matrix as he described it. However, protracted deliberations in California’s court system forced him to expose dysfunction among judges, lawyers, evaluators and others. His goal ultimately was to prevent unsuspecting parents from becoming victims. But in the end, he nearly became the ultimate victim. His own words have long been forgotten:  

My family and closest friends were still there for me, but even some of them had grown perplexed by and weary of the assault on my parental rights that seemed to have no end. On the deepest level, my situation now seemed hopeless to me as well. I had gone to sleep many nights doubting that I had the desire to face these problems another day… Driving up the Taconic Parkway, heading to an inn in the Berkshire Mountains, I began to think about what little known town I would repair to in order to commit suicide. What semi-remote Massachusetts state park could I hike deep into and shoot myself? What bed-and-breakfast could I check into and overdose there? On Long Island, I thought about the old Jeep I owned and the emissions it gave off. When I returned to New York, the thought of jumping out of the window of my apartment was with me every night for weeks. [3]

I thought about so many victims I encountered during my crusade against this killing machine, a mom who drove her children into the Hudson River, the Iraq war veteran who attempted suicide only to be saved through my intervention, a member of our parenting rights organization who hung himself from a tree in his back yard, the mom who called me daily for help until vanishing altogether, and the dad I dissuaded from a kidnapping of his own children now hiding in Israel. As I revisited the interview with that Florida talk show host, an aggrieved dad who took his life a few years later, the roar of a jet engine shook me from my daze.


[1]  Pearce v Longo, 766 F. Supp.2d 367 (NDNY 2011)

[2]  Mark Arsenault, Dad leaves clues to his desperation, boston.com, July 10, 2011

[3]   Alec Baldwin, A Promise to Ourselves, St. Martin’s Press, at pg. 183 (2008)

Crimes and Civil Debts Bear Reverse Punishments In Our Divorce And Family Courts.

 

Seeking Human Rights Protections for Aggrieved Fathers in Paris
 

By Dr. Leon R. Koziol

Ever wonder why crimes and civil debts bear reverse punishments in our nation’s divorce and family courts? Supreme Court Justice Abe Fortas once described these forums as “Kangaroo Courts.” Poor Abe, he would roll over in his grave today if he knew what was happening to our families and children here.

But it’s true, support debtors, nearly 100% of them fathers, are being tossed in a cage every day by self righteous family judges while crimes committed by their accusers are going unpunished. Welcome to Kendra’s Chronicles IV, where we bring you a personal side to the corruption which is occurring in these courts across our country. 

Parents are advised time and again by unscrupulous lawyers to fabricate or embellish upon facts in their petitions and testimony for tactical gains in needless court cases. It is lucrative for everyone but our families. A product of an archaic custody framework, such crimes are preferred over shared parenting laws to keep us fighting over our offspring. Who can blame some when the courts shove moms and dads into an arena reminiscent of a Roman Coliseum with a winner-take-all mentality?

At most, however, a perjuring mother will face a change in custody, and because this may harm the child more than anyone else, such crimes are highly ignored. To be sure, no judge or prosecutor wants to be known as the one who incarcerated a mom even though she caused an innocent dad to be denied access to his children or wrongfully convicted of contempt or abuse. 

For fathers, it’s quite another matter. Judges are programmed to believe that a man is stronger, physically and emotionally, to sustain the pain and suffering caused by the loss of a child’s affection or human liberty while incarcerated for a money debt. When an aggrieved dad reacts to the prejudice, he is ordered into anger management. Put another way, our courts are forcing dads under penalty of losing their children to accept their unequal status in violation of rights protected by our Constitution.

Hence it is the male parent who must bear the brunt of injustices needed to keep this archaic, lucrative and unequal custody scheme in place. It also explains why discrimination is still tolerated, why fathers remain 85% of support obligors and why nearly 100% of jailed debtors are men, including those who learn too late that the subject children were not theirs. Indeed the phrase “dead beat dad” has yet to be condemned for what it is, a sexist slur.

If a dad rightfully demands fair treatment and accountability, it may beget discreet or even overt retaliation of the kind I sustained when shedding light on the corruption which occurs here. I lost ten months access to my little girls until false petitions were finally dismissed for lack of evidence in 2010. I never even had to put in a defense. But as far as the court was concerned, it was over, no damage done. Dad got his girls back.

Seriously? That’s it? I lost four major holidays, two birthdays and my eldest daughter’s First Holy Communion because of the crimes committed by a scorned ex- spouse, not to mention the precious interactions between a loving dad and two innocent girls. But fathers no longer matter in these courts especially after money became their priority. 

Perjury had been rampant in the often deranged testimony of a mother named Kelly Hawse-Koziol. The judge could conclude that much on the contradictions and ill-preparation alone. These were extremely damaging accusations employed purely as custody tactics, yet not even a scolding or slap on the wrist came of it.

The logical consequence of this kind of break-down in the administration of justice is more of the same. It encouraged this woman to repeat her crimes again and again if for example my girls reported a fun outing with a girlfriend or some rumor which could get her more “child support” in retaliation. It was also a product of entitlement mentality prompted by liberals across the country. 

Kelly Hawse-Koziol remains a tenured high school teacher at Frankfort-Schuyler School District in upstate New York. On numerous occasions while still married, I was called upon to proof-read her resumes in a desperate attempt to leave that district notwithstanding my routine defense of the community and school board. Our efforts got her interviews (and arguments) but no success.

Ten years later, this Masters degree teacher was filing court petitions so impaired with grammar defects that a judge was forced to insert five “sic” notations in a single paragraph to make it a part of his decision. Never mind what this teacher might be doing to the students or taxpayers of her school district, it was my job as a co-parent to make sure that no harm was done to my girls’ home studies

On one occasion, Ms. Hawse-Koziol asserted the startling fact that the Nile River flowed south, evidently because it looked that way on a map. For many of you this may seem inconsequential but when it came up during one of our many father-child trivia exchanges, I could have gotten myself in contempt of a court order especially the way I was being scrutinized as a free speaking American. 

My girls are one grade apart in a nearby school district and very smart. You know I’ve got to tell you that, I’m a proud father. They loved to absorb knowledge from whatever source and would never let me stop with the many true-false or multiple choice exercises we practiced during road trips. In none of the family court proceedings over the past six years did such quality activity receive any mention. 

It was one of many learning advantages which was ripped out from under them by a family judge more intent on suppressing the exercise of free speech than dignifying the role of a genuine father.  He damaged these girls in more ways than one. But the inequities of family court generally and the misconduct of this judge in particular had other impacts.

During one of our trivia exchanges, I was subject, as most parents are in family court, to a restriction upon parent-child discourse involving litigation. It’s hard to know how to draw the line where a parent’s authority ends and the state takes over. It was harder still even as a veteran lawyer-parent when my judge, Dan King, found me to possess college degrees I never earned for purposes of imputing child support income. 

Well the conflict found its way into our trivia games and limited weekend fathering activity. To make a long story short, I could not correct answers which my girls attributed to their mother. When they defended her on the degrees she possessed, I was hard pressed not to explain how a judge had misrepresented the facts on this subject. My preferred approach was simply to be a father even if it meant violating orders that made cackling hens more sensible .

Dr. Leon R. Koziol

Civil Rights Advocate

(315) 796-4000