By Dr. Leon Koziol
Parenting Rights Institute
The following text message was sent to the cell phone of Kelly Hawse-Koziol at 11:45 pm on the 18th birthday of my eldest daughter. I have no number to either of my daughters. I doubt that this alienating parent shared it with the one it was intended to reach.
Happy 18th Birthday Kristen!
Since you were born I always wanted to do something special with you on this day. But like so many other events I was prevented from experiencing in your life and that of your sister, your mother got in the way without cause of any kind except that of replacing me for money and status, and harming me when her agendas failed.
Someday when you can understand what happened to your loving dad, you will realize what your mom truly did to destroy our once wonderful father-daughter relationships:
Disney World, your first experiences with the ocean at Cocoa Beach, swimming behind our family boat at “Mermaid Island” as you and Cassandra came to call it, that Christmas tradition of carrying the two of you out across the starlit winter sky in our front yard at that special moment in the Polar Express movie, all the Harry Potter movies you explained to me with great enthusiasm, fireside dancing with fellow kids at the Sagamore, stories and quizzes you enjoyed during our trips to so many exciting places, the challenges of climbing the gauntlet at Destiny Mall, our many parades and field day carnivals afterwards during my campaigns you enjoyed so thoroughly, the carriage ride through Times Square, Macy’s Day Parade and your spontaneous performances in Central Park in front of musicians which attracted so much attention. And we certainly can’t forget your first parasail rides at our summer place, Lake George, where everyone treated you like celebrities.
It’s such a long list I would loved to have shared with you today at dinner which I asked your mom so vigorously to facilitate. But like everything that was good in our lives, your mom did everything she could to destroy it for no logical reason at all. I never once harmed either of you, and despite a tantrum or two over your mom’s anal monitoring of me since our separation in 2004, I hung in there as best I could against a court system bent on punishing your dad for exercising his God given rights. The sacrifices I made are now folklore among similarly persecuted parents across the country, some of which are movie stars, famous athletes, university professors, prominent doctors and professionals.
Sadly I will not be able to give you that special gift I was hoping for today and I will certainly not do so by phone or Grandma Hawse who burned her home down with neglected candles. If your mom is honest for once in her war on dad, she will admit to my lawyer assistance which got Grandma a nice fire insurance settlement without the usual one-third taken out for fees. So much of this is forgotten or tortured in your mom’s endless quest for revenge. She wants to make sure that her damage to our relationship is lifelong.
I had no intention of getting into any of this with you had you driven over to a restaurant of your choice for a birthday dinner as I requested. At first your mom was receptive when she contacted me for a “normal divorced family” environment, but typical of her history of provocative behavior, she reneged and returned us to the battle she started ignorantly and pointlessly in 2006 leading to the “embarrassing” fiasco she caused today. No one in the sane parenting world can understand her spiteful behavior. She had so many opportunities to end this but it’s obvious today that she enjoys the drama into eternity.
You are an adult now facing big challenges in the sick world we live in. That’s why I must do what I need to do next which could have been so easily avoided. You girls are innocent victims of a corrupt court system which has become my destiny to expose and reform. It’s something of which you should be proud but prevented from feeling due to the 100% domination by a vicious parent alienator. What I do next may bring a lot of publicity to our ordeal as I travel to the New Hampshire Primary and Washington D.C. to secure overdue reforms, but your mom has, once again, given me no choice.
All I wanted was a nice birthday dinner, free of the past, where we could be nostalgic on the good times and share plans on an exciting future. Someday it is my hope that you will learn the other side and realize just how much I sacrificed to remain in your lives. I will always be there for you and love you as a dad (not a non-custodial parent) no matter the brainwashing championed by your “custodial parent.”
It’s nearing midnight, so it’s safe to assume I will not even receive the phone call I asked for on this special day. What kind of a “mother” does this with so many girls and guys your age who would have loved and begged to have a dad like me.
Happy Birthday Kristen. The years went by too fast.
Dad (Leon Koziol)